well, a best friend of mine who is newly married happened to visit massage parlour in Thamel. He is very happy with his wife but accidently he had sex with a prostitute there. And unfortunately while doing sex his condom did not work and let it fall into her......he said that she assured him not to wory of anything wrong. Now he is very much tense and worried about his life and wife. He suspects he might be infected with HIV....he said he is afraid and has not commited any physical relation with his wife....his wife too is sad with this behaviour...can anybody tellme what is the possibility of AIDS with him?.........can anyboy tellme some best sites about AIDS so tht i could refer him for knowledge...help us

There are many places where you can be tested for HIV: in the offices of a private doctor, a local health department, hospitals,clinics and sites specifically set up for HIV testing.it is recommended that you wait three months after possible exposure before being tested for HIV.For most people it takes three months for these antibodies to develop. In rare cases, it can take up to six months.

"........................ accidently he had sex with a prostitute there."
why did he go there in first place? Is he social worker? is he film producer, trying to make documentary or some thing?
Stop defending him, if he went there, say it loud he went there to have sex.

convince that gal to go to doctor and have a blood checkup
no other way than that until its three months

how you can you accidently put on a condom and accidently have sex? too many accidents don't you think?

ok ok. he went to thamel for massage but ending up having sex.
i'm confused?

what an asshole must he be. Newly married went to thamel and ended up having with sex with a prostitute re? wtf is going on in here. are u trying to fool a 4th grader or something?

well the tension ur friend going through can only be imagined
its really hard..............i have seen many in my career
some go through severe depression
anyway 1st of all best of luck for him any undue things wont happen to him
secondly like some1 rightly said he can take the sex worker 4 hiv test
but i dont know how far is that feasible
many a times such workers r untraceable

seconly if u r so much worried u can go for p24 test to rule out hiv in ur blood
p24 testing may be used to detect early HIV infection and to screen donated blood for HIV. The p24 test is one of the earlier tests developed to detect HIV infection.....

n more than that matter isnt that of hiv alone
there r many other sti(sexually transmitted infection)which should be taken care of........

sex tension...?

When did you have the tension? before younad ex with the prostitute or after you did it?

You shold have been thinking aboout your wife before you naled that prostitute.

There is one thing you can do now. Tell your wife what happened. Tell her that you don't deserve to be with her and you want her to divorce you.

Then go to Pashupati and become a jogi or a become a social worker and contribute to awareness of AIDS and other STDs

Raw Mess get your friend to find that prostitute again then make her give him blood sample so he can get it tested. She might even agree to get herself tested as long as he pays for it. At least he won't have to wait for 3 months.

Hey Raw_mess,
Internet is a absurd place, and when you are at sajha and try to express serious emotions and get remarks from people who you don't know, will not ever know, it can let you down.
Filter the stuff you take. Stick with your friend.
good luck

Seems the possibility is very rare.. However go and get testest for HIV.

Raw mess,
i am sorry that u happened to have sex with a prostitute. Why don't you have sex with your wife. Use condom and enjoy sex with your wife. HIV don't get its way through condom unless u do the same mistake that u did to the prostitute. After 4 months get tested for HIV. Hopefully, you should be okay. For prostitute, prostitution is a business or in other words,they make money for their livelihood;therefore, those persons are as careful of contracting HIV as you are.
It happens man. Don't feel guilty for that. You don't even need to express this reality to your wife, coz it might hurt her. GO ahead, enjoy your life. BUt remember next time, have 2 condoms with you. We human cannot control our emotion all the time. 2 condoms are stronger than a single condom
cheers