मेरो एक मित्रको परीवार बिग्रने क्रममा छ भन्ने मलाइ एकदमै लागेको छ । उनको परीवारमा श्रीमति, हाइस्कुल सिनियर छोरी र युनिभर्सिटि (अन्डरग्राड) पढ्दै गरेका छोरा छन । फेसबुकको माध्यमबाट मलाइ यो थाहा लाग्यो कि उनका छोरा र छोरी दुवै खराव संगत र गलत क्रियाकलापमा चुर्लुम्म डुबेका छन । अमेरिकी समाजले कसरी पचाउला थाहा छैन, तर मेरो नेपाली मानसिकताले ती फेसबुकमा आदानप्रदान गरिएका वाक्यपिच्छे "फक" शब्दहरु तथा यौन उत्तेजक फोटोहरुलाइ असामान्य बदचलन मानेको छ । कतिपय फोटोहरुमा  असामान्य यौन  भङ्गीमा प्रदर्शन समेत गरेको छ । ती फोटाहरु यति डरलाग्दा छन कि,  परिवार, र अझ खासगरी आमावुवाले आफ्ना सन्तान र तिनका साथिहरुको त्यस्ता फोटोहरुलाइ सहज लिन सक्दै सक्दैन ।

अब म असाध्यै दुविधामा परेको छु, मैले यसबारे साथिलाइ जानकारी गराउँदा उचित होला या नहोला? कि यो अमेरीका हो ठिकै छ, तिनीहरु वयस्क भैसके, जे सुकै गरोस भनेर आँखा चिम्लिदिने पो हो कि? मेरो साथी आफ्ना सन्तानका यी हरकतहरुसित परिचीत भए जस्तो लाग्दैन । म आफैले साथीका छोराछोरीलाइ सम्झाउने वा प्रत्यक्ष कुराकानी गर्ने अवस्था पनि छैन । साथीलाइ थाहा दिँदा के भन्ने हो खोइ?  तर अर्को मनले भन्छ, न साथी आफै नै छोराछोरीहरु अमेरीकि सन्तान जस्तै फर्वार्ड भएमा खुशी मान्ने खालका पो छन कि? त्यसो हो भने, मैले केहि भन्नु आफ्नै लागि घातक हुनेछ । साथीकि श्रीमति (भाउजु) धार्मिक स्वभावको भएको हुँदा उनी सन्तानको यस्तो हर्कत देखेर नराम्ररी विचलीत हुने डर पनि छ, लाग्छ भाउजुले मानसिक सन्तुलन गुमाउने डर छ ।

यस्तो अवस्थामा के गर्दा उचीत होला, कृपया कामलाग्ने सुझावहरु दिनु होला ।

Dear saaj,

 

If your friend is still nepali by heart, then he will appreciate ur help , may be u can get more close to him and his wife, and will always gets decent favour in ur difficult times.

Most People generally think wht they will get in return by helping others.

But u hv to help everyone with ur good intention.

And I agree with boulevard dreams

 "Fulko aakhama fulai sansar kada ko aakha ma kadai sansaar bhanne."

A gun manufacturer says a gun is there to protect not to kill, but it stills kill someone to protect. itz just a argument.

Look dude Pedophile (>16) (She might be 17/18 but She is your Friend's Daughter, and it's SHAME you are STALKING HER IN FACEBOOK(and Him for Son)!!!! Read your Sentence Again (जो कसैलाइ पनि यौनोत्तेजना जगाउने अवस्था छ= What does this means?)......you have mention ALL THE PEOPLE WILL GET SEXUALLY AROUSED (ALL=YOU TOO)!! Who is STALKING FRIEND's DAUGHTER!!   [You had motivation to go into their PROFILE and LOOK for PICTURES]

ramprasadneupane,

हा हा , त्यो चैने गुड आइडिया हो है । माने ल ।

boulevard dreams,

I appreciate your suggestions. Thank you. I liked "Don't ask anything about their negative habits or
something like that but ask your friend what his kids are doing and how
is their study...  just
ask him how is he taking care of his kids " Perhaps that would be best way to begin with.

8847,

Thank you for your tips. So far, I have heard my friend talking like a Nepali than an American, however, talking about kids bad friends is not as easy as talking about general stuffs that we Nepalese commonly do at gatherings. Boulevard dreams strategy sounds good to me so far.

Laure,

You are sick. The suggestion MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS was my first option among many, yet, I was trying to find out if there was any opinion that I could try for something good. See, others, how they have genuinely attempted sharing their opinion and easing the situation for me, unlike you, who is irritating me with baseless allegation and proving yourself stupid in each of your posting. FYI, I know almost everyone in DMV region who are here for 10+ years.

Saaj ji By your post it seems you are already friend with them in facebook. Now Tell your friend to open fb account. if he already  have one then add him in your account. When your friend saw fb suggestion to add his son and daughter, it's up to him what to do.