I really don't like to be taken for granted. Sometimes I feel as if I am being ill treated, not ill treated exactly but as if my boyfriend is taking me for granted and kind of ignoring me. If I weren't serious about him , I wouldn't have cared so much and forgotten him by now, but I really think that I'm in love. Friends, advise me what to do.

Loote's point is good. But some nepalis dont respond good to talking. They are reluctant in admiting the truth because of the fear of presenting themselves as a bad person. But As loote said i agree thatLove Should Pour From Heart. Ppl say love is sacrifice, love is a compromise, and understanding. I say love is unconditional. There are no conditions with love. No one needs to sacrifice or compromise in true love. Cos there wont be a time when u will have to make sacrifice for love. Things work our just fine when ur in a true love. Some may disagree on this and may reclaim that there is sacrifice and compromise in love. But those who think so and practice so arent really in love. There is a difference betn being in love and being in the idea of love.

Men know what they are doing. They know when they are treating their women right or not. If u know that ur man is not treating u right then u know that there is no love that he had for u or there never was love at anytime. There could be a difference in the level of romance a man performance as the relationship settles down. Like they may not start being as romantic as they use to be like the first year or relationship or whatever but the true love if he ever had for u never changes. My suggestion is to have a serious talk and move on. If ur a confident , independent woman and would think that u can survive without man....its time for u to leave him and move on to other things in ur life.

hoina ...hoina !! just listen to what I said otherwise you'll regret. You have to be strong and take no sh*t from anybody. Eye for an Eye and Tit for Tat....always works !! Like it or not but the reality is Power is everything in this world.So, you have to be strong first stop whinning. Teach your BF a lesson or two...Jesus Christ !!

PB: I would commit a suicide after such almost break up event.

AmriT

I see the world pretty much as black and white. It makes me very desicive no matter even if I'm dead wrong about things appear to different than what they really are. I hate to look at grey areas.

If I were you either there would be a very good relationship or no relationship at all.
Indecision is the greater enemy than the enemy itself.

Elixir , watch what you say , if you have nothing better to say to someone to encourage them and give them courange when things are bad..then shut your freaking mouth.

what about in your thread, when you were asking about help in finding accounting jobs,,,what if everyone had replyed saying you....if you cant get a job then go to nepal, or may be you just dont ahve what it takes to get a job,,,,but no ppl did help you with whatever they knew.

if you know how to ask for help, then learn how to help too, a few good words of encouragement wont hurt.

mansion - i disagree with you!! how can you talk to someone and tell them how you feel and try to force them to love you and treat you right?? seriously that's some bs ke!! ufffff!!!
if he's ignoring then clearly he doesn't give a sh-it about you!! there's the end to it!! he has to be the one that wants you and gives you the attention!! you can't try going around to get his attention!! and plus i bet you that PB had a good relationship and that he didn't ignore her before but she's saying he does now so he's a jerk!! why would you do that to someone??

sajhauser - i agree with you ke!! "If you do not like the personality of the person, then you won't like it in the future too....clear cut...a person's nature NEVER changes...their habit might change, but the nature doesn't".

that's so true!! :)

PB: just tell him to go to hell and move on ke!! or you could always stay with him and have him treat you the way he does!!

Mansion - i disagree with you!! how can you talk to someone and tell them how you feel and try to force them to love you and treat you right?? seriously that's some bs ke!! ufffff!!!

Miss Nails...where did i mention anything about forcing him to love her or treat her right.
so what r u disagreeing with.

since when is it wrong, to sit down and talk, about how each other feel, shi*t happens, you just dont dump a guy/girl and move on....dont you think communication is imp, well then what exactly is communication to you.....sometimes there is no problem in a relationship, but how we react to certain things creates a problem...all i was saying is sit down and talk, just dont come to the conclusion and dump him.

i am not saying..what he's doing is right, but also at the same time, he might not realized what he's doing is making her feel dismayed and ignored.

anyways, hope things work out for her,all the best wishes.

mansion - okay this is what you said ke:
girl what you need to do is, make him sit his as*s down, and talk to him, you gotta let him know how you feel about the things he does, and stuff like that.

according to this she's trying to tell him how she feels but my point why is she doing that when he doesn't even care and is ignoring her in the first place ke!! you can't force stuff on people!! uffff!!

uffff nevermind.

mansion - why are you giving up now?? don't say that ke!!! nevermind re? uffff!!
explain it to me what you mean ke maybe i am not getting what you're trying to say ke!! :S

fine ignore me then!!

Let me just announce it to everyone then:
mansion is a ignorer!!! ahem ..ahem...so you know this whole thread was started cause of people who enjoy ignoring other people!!

exactly (wink,wink) :P

whats there to explain, i've already explained myself above answering your comments.cant help it if you intrepreted in your own way, and assumed that i meant, she needed to force him to love him.

well anyways, we just have diff views. have a great evening.

mansion - haha!! we're good now ke!! :P just for the fact that you replied after i announced that you were a ignorer is good enough for me ke!!

yeah i think we have different views maybe cause of the gender thing ke!! you are a male right?? :S haha!!

oh and yeah, after the proof here let me announce ke:
mansion is not a ignorer after all!! :)

you have a nice evening too ke!! and don't ignore people ke!! :P just kidding! (wink,wink) :)

yes i am a male,but i dont think the difference in our perception has anything whatsoever to do with gender.

i believe that when things dont go right, for whatever reason, whose ever fault it is, ppl should try to work it out. like i said, sometimes we all do things and we dont realize that our signifacnt other might be hurt, or woudlnt like it, sometimes we do things unintentionally.

you cant say ..oh i love this guy/girl sooo much, and when things are bad,,u just dump him, if you love someone, try to work things out, talk..talk..talk....its always not about how much other loves you, sometimes you have to know yourself, how much you love him/her, and yes, when one day you wake up, and look at the mirror and just know that you've loved the person with all your heart, with everything there is to make a person feel complete, and you've tried and done your best, then yes you move on, but pleaseeeeeeeee dont take a haste decision, your lost love might be your true one.

all it takes is a lil effort to make something beautifull into something elegant, and every couple should that to each other.

its one thing to fall in love...thats the easy part, to make them feel loved is is a diff story, and to make your love work out in long term...well that needs, effort, persistence, understanding, compromsing, being their for each other and moral.

mansion - muaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!
okay i understand what you mean now!! but you weren't this clear before ke you just said talk to them and i was like what the .....???
anyways i totally agree with you this time!! :) :)

and see you talk and not ignore!! haha!! good boy! (wink,wink) :)

but but if talking doesn't work PB you better move on ke!! :)

muahhhhhh huh

god nails, your lips feels so soft, everfelt the moist on the rose leaflet early in the spring morning, yahhhh kinda like that.

well smile, you never know whose heart you might conquere.

mansion - lol!! :P :P

by the way are you single?? :P (wink,wink)

not anymore , not after kissing you.

mansion - hahaha!! so that's a yes right?? ;)

nails common, it shouldnt be that hard to figure out the meaning of that, aba tesma pani, i dont agree chai navana hai please.